“And here is something hard to admit: If I take my bodies perspective on love seriously, it means that right now-at this very moment in which I’m crafting this sentence- I do not love my husband.”
Barbara Fredrickson, in: Love 2.0, Creating Happiness and Health in Moments of Connection
Last week in Brazil was pretty amazing. 25 leaders from all over the world (Zimbabwe, India, USA, UK and many more countries) met in the Sitio de Cachoeira 30 minutes East from the airport of Rio de Janeiro. We build together a curriculum around Love and Forgiveness.
In the plane going there, I felt deeply inspired by the book Love 2.0. It made clear to me how meditation and becoming more healthy and loving go hand in hand. In a scientific way. Nervus vagus and vagal tone are transformed through mediation and connection, oxytocin is spread and your brain can sync up with the brains of others. The combination of love, Buddhism and science is inspiring and I’ve felt it the past 10 years in my own development.
- No emotion is built to last. Wondrous feelings of love sweep through you only for seconds.
- A micro-moment of love changes your mind. It expands your awareness of your surroundings, even your sense of self.
- Positive emotions open you up and change you for the better.
- Love draws you out of your cocoon of self-absorption to attune to others.
The U process did it’s work as well. When everybody left at the end of the training, I felt depressed and angry with myself: ‘Why didn’t I buy the more expensive flight and left? Why did I stay another night? I just want to go instead of being left overhere.’ Allowing the frustration to arise a revelation came: let’s act in an instant! So I made a pretty beautiful booklet about a new one day training for executives around love and forgiveness that will be available shortly in the iBook store. Spreading it among the participants of last weeks learning lab generated a lot of love…
Picture of Cristo Redentor taken from Jardim Botanico.